Stop Blocking, Start Connecting

What are the communication blockers? There are innumerable ways in which people hinder harmonious exchanges, but eight major blockers pose the greatest challenges and create the most drama. Many blockers are interrelated and are oftentimes offshoots that accompany these primary blockers: Fixing, comparing, multi-tasking, trivializing, analyzing, interrogating, chastising and over-sympathizing. Learning how each of these blockers, individually and simultaneously, enters our interpersonal communication and wreaks havoc that is difficult to undo, is the subject of my new book (January 2018).

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Blocker #1: Fixing

  • Creates co-dependence
  • Removes responsibility
  • Leads to more problems

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Connector #1: Empowering

  • Focus on desirable outcomes + serve as a sounding board
  • Help them arrive at their own solutions
  • Champion others by providing encouraging words and reminding them of past successes
  • Share your method for arriving at decisions – don’t decide for them

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Blocker #2: Topping

  • Shifts focus from speaker
  • Dwarfs the speaker’s issue
  • Can lead to increased anxiety

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Connector #2: Listening

  • Focus your attention on the story and details that they are sharing
  • Avoid jumping in with your similar experience
  • Listen to them and don’t shift the focus to you
  • Understand and relate but don’t one-up or compare

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Blocker #3: Multi-tasking

  • Divides attention
  • Makes others feel unimportant
  • Ignores and alienates
  • Doesn’t allow for eye contact

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Connector #3: Focusing

  • Be present and alert
  • Make eye contact
  • Concentrate on your conversation
  • Avoid distractions like technology
  • Connect with their words and the feelings behind those words

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Blocker #4: Trivalizing

  • “I’m drowning” –
    “You’re a great swimmer!”
  • Doesn’t acknowledge our feelings
  • Can make us feel lonely or more anxious

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Connector #4: Validating

  • Remember what it was like not to know
  • Recognize the worthiness and legitimacy of their concern
  • Don’t diminish their problem
  • Provide supportive words that will validate their feelings and position
  • Recognize the many activities and subjects that make you feel clueless
  • Use your knowledge to help others grow and develop

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Blocker #5: Analyizing

  • Makes others feel judged
  • Makes others feel unappreciated and misunderstood
  • Makes the problem seem
    bigger or deeper

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Connector #5: Appreciating

  • Value their perspective & manner of seeing / experiencing the world
  • Respect their opinion
  • Appreciate their approach
  • Avoid judging and evaluating
  • Appreciate their unique talents
    & skills

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Blocker #6: Interrogating

  • Disrupts, interrupts and frustrates
  • Takes speaker off topic and on tangents
  • Draws conversation out

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Connector #6: Understanding

  • Seek to understand the issue
  • Listen wholeheartedly
  • Hear them out completely
    before interjecting with questions
  • Ask relevant questions that
    probe the situation
  • Don’t doubt them or make assumptions

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Blocker #7: Chastising

  • Belittles the person sharing the issue
  • Demeans, disrespects and discourages
  • Leads to resentment and avoidance

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Connector #7: Responding

  • Be proactive by focusing on the desirable outcome
  • Resist reactive communication
  • Don’t use chastising words that demean and discourage
  • Discuss and demonstrate appropriate / preferred actions

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Blocker #8: Over-Sympathizing

  • Victimizes and renders the
    person powerless
  • Removes control and capability
  • Can lead to feeling awkward
    and uncomfortable

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Connector #8: Empathizing

  • Acknowledge their emotions
  • Be compassionate and merciful
  • Don’t victimize them
  • Don’t make them feel helpless
    and powerless

How to Enhance Your Interactions with Colleagues & Clients

Though unintended, and often unconscious, we all communicate in ways that prevent us from being present and receptive in our professional interactions, interfering with our desired business objective to attract and retain clients. This experiential program provides participants with the know-how to identify these obstacles, and replace them with communication tools that enhance client engagement and retention. Participants will also be introduced to the most recent research on how to create connections that turn current clients into referral sources.

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Why We Are Different

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CONNECTION

We facilitate in new ways for participants to connect with one another, professionally and personally. The stage is set for collaboration and interaction that allows for meaningful engagement with colleagues. We plant the seeds for innovative partnerships, collaborative efforts and cross-selling services that grow and keep business with your organization. Participants return to their firms and organizations with an identification of common goals and shared purpose.

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INNOVATION

High achievers tend to be competitive. Redirecting that competitive drive away from competition with colleagues and other firms, and channeling it into competition with possibility generates innovation—new thinking, new approaches and better outcomes. Organic Communication facilitators guide participants through thought-provoking activities and engaging conversations that challenge their innate resistance to change, old ways of thinking, and traditional business models. Attendees go back to their firms with ideas and strategies to develop innovative partnerships and collaborative efforts for building an enterprise culture. Equipped with effective business models that serve both financial objectives and professional values, attendees emerge with the will and knowledge to undertake new and creative ways to deliver the high quality and responsive services that their clients expect.

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CLARITY

Sustaining a high-performing organization begins with clarity—about what’s happening now and the direction the firm wants to take next. Navigating successfully from “now” to “next” is the collective responsibility of the members of the firm. Organic Communication facilitates conversations that elucidate and demystify the opportunities and obstacles for sustainability and success. Where are you now? Where do you want to go? How will you get there? Who needs to be on board to accomplish your firm’s objectives and goals? What are the very real challenges and threats you face and what must be done to overcome them? What are stakeholders’ roles and responsibilities in driving positive and productive long-term change? Participants leave the retreat with focus and a road map to move forward toward excellence.

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COMMITMENT

A great outcome of our engagements is that attendees emerge with a strong sense of commitment. Commitment is a two-sided coin, with firm culture on one side (internal commitment) and client service on the other (external commitment). Participants deepen their commitment to advancing their firm’s collaborative and innovative goals while simultaneously committing to focus on a primary result: high-quality work for clients.

Common scenarios that raise communication challenges

We will show you how to pinpoint the reason you feel deflated, disappointed, devastated and frustrated whenever you interact with certain people in your life, and how to prevent and preempt downward spirals in conversations. We will also introduce you to the eight powerful communication connectors, which will allow you to build positive and productive relationships with key people in your personal and professional life. Again, there are countless ways to connect with others, yet I’ve found that replacing each blocker with one of these central connectors is immediately effective: Empowering, relating, focusing, validating, appreciating, understanding, responding and empathizing. I’ll go into the emotional and psychological drivers behind each of the blockers, and offer you tips, tools and takeaways to create connection.

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Communication & Collaborative Leadership Trainer

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Lee Broekman

Principal

As an expert in persuasion, presentation and interpersonal communication, Lee trains decision makers in top organizations to communicate and manage naturally and effectively. Lee is a frequent speaker in legal and business gatherings. She coaches AmLaw 100 law firm leaders and senior managers of Fortune 1000 companies. Lee has taught courses at USC’s Annenberg School for Communication and Marshall School of Business, and guest teaches at the UCLA School of Law. A richly varied background in political communications as an L.A. City Council spokesperson, campaign media advisor, ambassadorial scholar to the Netherlands and political lobbyist, has ultimately laid the strong foundation (and countless stories) Lee has to teach professionals to work with different people under stressful situations.

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We look forward to collaborating with you

We here at Organic Communication are committed to helping you. To learn more finding the right solution for your leadership development, team or organization, please contact Lee Broekman at lee@organiccomm.com or by 818-212-9196.

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