What do you do — what’s the right thing to do — when you’ve messed up so badly and fallen from grace? In the wake of continuing news about people in positions of trust and authority taking advantage of their position of power to harass and humiliate, I want to share a simple and sincere…
I’m not the first to say that there is a lot of tension in conversations these days. Whether on social media, at the Thanksgiving dinner table, in office discussions, in political discourse and beyond. I’ve been listening to this dis-course: Listening to the dis-comfort, the dis-ease and to the general dis-content as well-intentioned people enter…
Mostly everyone I know wrestles with fear and doubt on their personal and professional paths. In fact, it seems that the higher we climb on the career ladder, the higher the stakes become and the shakier our confidence gets. Instead of attaining greater calm and comfort, we have more people to please, more judgment to…
Sureness (noun) : A state of mind in which one is free from doubt. Synonyms: certainty, confidence, conviction, positiveness, satisfaction Related words: decisiveness, determination, firmness, purposefulness, resoluteness On a recent trip to Hawaii, I walked by a statue of a Burmese standing Buddha. The resort I stayed at was filled with spiritual sculptures and ancient artifacts, but this…
We can’t be happy and upbeat all the time, though we know our thoughts and emotions affect our relationships, work, health and life. Trying to focus on the silver lining in cloudy situations is not always easy, and research in affective science and positive psychology reveals that this inauthentic approach also fails to serve us. Luckily,…
Negotiating is an interpersonal process. Making deals involves individual interests that conflict, oftentimes giving rise to anger and anxiety. Most people prepare a legal and business strategy going into a negotiation that focuses on talking points, offers and counteroffers. Rarely do people plan out their emotional strategy for what is essentially an emotionally charged conversation.…
I spent my Tuesday morning at the Santa Monica Superior Court. Current Judge and Former Mayor James K. Hahn was presiding over the traffic trials that day. With my June 28 cell phone usage details printout neatly tucked away in a business folder, I was professionally attired and ready to demonstrate that I wasn’t texting…
See our article below,”Three Persuasion Secrets Revealed: Will You? Yes, and; Because” published in Leadership Exchange by GLA ALA of Greater Los Angeles. Download PDF here
Contrary to professional belief, you don’t have to be ruthless to be successful. Evidence and examples from the management and leadership worlds prove, again and again, that people who can connect and collaborate develop loyal and fruitful relationships with their colleagues and clients. I walk into dozens of firms and organizations stripped of empathy and…